Single Track Two · Found — Meeting the Right One

⏸ This track is paused (starts after month 19)

The slides and lesson plans are completely ready and downloadable, but for the first 18 months we’re only walking the Married Track — we won’t carry expectations for two tracks at once. The Single Track’s unit is “one family opens its home to 3–4 young adults”; see the explanation on the Rooted page.

Our Own Tool

What gets filled this season: column A of the Mirror Inventory

This inventory started back in week 1 of Rooted — but only column B, “who I am now,” with not a single question about choosing a spouse. Now, in week 1 of this season (week 8 overall), it’s column A’s turn: the person I want.

Right now they can’t see what they wrote seven weeks ago

That’s deliberate. Column A has to be written independently, without looking at column B, or the gap isn’t real. Only then, when all three pages go side by side in week 14, do those two questions carry any weight:

Did I change in these fourteen weeks?
And would the person I want, want who I am now?

Session 7 of Found — “open the list, and count how God changed what I wanted” — is exactly this moment.

The hardest question in column A

Question 37: “The person I want — what’s the most likely reason they wouldn’t choose me?”

That question is the bridge between column A and column B. If he can write an answer, he has already seen it. If he can’t, or writes “I don’t know,” that’s the first piece of homework. When you sit down one-on-one, this is the one you have to talk about.

What it protects is this season’s red line

Questions like “the person on my mind right now” live in the ☒ for yourself only layer and never enter any answer code. The host family can never get them, and shouldn’t ask.

This inventory lets the host family understand them better precisely so they can hold the “never matchmake, never ask about anyone’s love life” line more firmly — not so they can cross it more easily.

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The Hidden Thread

One Thread Running Underneath

God changes what you want before He gives what He prepared.

— the thread of this season

Session 1: each person honestly writes down “my list” (what you’d want in someone, right now), seals it in an envelope, and hands it to the host family to keep.
Along the way: every session sharpens how you see a person — what’s worth weight, what to watch for, where the line is.
Session 7: open the list — and compare it to who you’ve become this season. Did God change what you wanted? (No judgment. Just seeing.)

Seven Gatherings

The Seven Gatherings

Same shape as season one: tea and warm-up 15′ → short talk / testimony 25′ → same-gender small group, going deep 40′ (on matters of the heart, people only tell the truth with their own gender) → practice / response 15′ → praying together 10′.

1

What the Bible Says About Dating

Dating isn’t a pastime — it’s a road toward covenant

Key passage · Song 2:7; Prov 4:23

“Dating isn’t a pastime, it’s a road toward covenant — so guard your heart first.”

Starts the “my list” thread

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2

Not Unequally Yoked

Sharing a faith isn’t a bonus point — it’s facing the same direction

Key passage · 2 Cor 6:14; Amos 3:3

“Can two walk together unless they agree? To share a yoke, you first have to face the same way.”

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3

What to Weigh, What to Watch

Looks age; character ages well — telling what matters from the red flags

Key passage · 1 Sam 16:7; Prov 31:30

“Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting; it’s the one who fears the Lord who’s worth a lifetime.”

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4

Purity and Boundaries

Holiness isn’t killing the fun — it’s guarding what’s most valuable

Key passage · 1 Thess 4:3-8; 1 Cor 6:18-20

“Your body is a temple of the Spirit — and a temple has a threshold at its door. Holiness isn’t killing the fun; it’s guarding what’s most valuable.”

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5

A Healthy Relationship

What grows in the light grows healthy — family and church involved, real accountability

Key passage · Prov 15:22; Eccl 4:9-12

“A relationship isn’t a locked room for two, it’s a walk everyone can see is good — what grows in the light grows healthy.”

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6

Saying No, and Waiting

Shepherding through rejection and breakups; holding on to hope while you wait

Key passage · Ps 27:14; Isa 40:31

“Waiting isn’t wasted time — it’s God preparing two people at once. His “no” and His “wait” are both love.”

Pastoral care matters here · includes a couple’s testimony

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7

Rest · Look Back · Sending

Open the list — and count how God changed what you wanted

Key passage · Gen 2:2-3; 1 Cor 3:6

“I planted, Apollos watered — but God made it grow.”

The closing session

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For the Host Family

For the Host Family (read this one especially)

Never matchmake, never hint — no pairing people off, no jokes about how “you two would be good together.” One joke can destroy the safety of the room.
Don’t ask about anyone’s love life — who’s in something ambiguous, who got turned down, who has a past. Don’t ask, don’t guess, don’t repeat.
The pastoral backstop goes up a level — this season touches rejection, breakups, and broken histories. Grace first, never condemnation; follow up one-on-one when needed, refer to a pastor when it’s beyond you.
Same-gender groups, no exceptions — every going-deep conversation splits men and women. Every time.
Keep the testimony honest — the couple sharing in session 6 talks about waiting and being turned down. Real tears do more good than a tidy ending.